TMI Tuesday: November 29, 2022

TMI Tuesday is posted.

1. What is something minor or seemingly insignificant in your life that actually contributes greatly to your happiness?

To combat my pseudo-nihilistic tendancies, I try to take nothing for granted and therein struggle to call anything insignificant. Contenders were water, oxygen, respect, chocolate, and bare feet, but I'm choosing to settle on Bass

2. Describe your life in 5 words.

"Where did you (I) come from?"

3. Have you ever been screwed over? What happened and how did you respond?

Is there anyone who hasn't?

I'm sure I have in every aspect of life, but will choose my first redundancy. The company I worked for took me out of the branch worked in to move me to a bigger branch an extra hours journey away. Some years later they moved me back to the first branch and then closed it down.

4. What did you think was cool when you were young but is not cool now?

Being an adult.

5. Would you rather stay in or go out on a Friday night?

Stay in. I have never been one for going out. My mother and a friend conspired to get me out the house soon after I turned legal drinking age. I made some friends, got closer to some (like Jez & Stink), but as we've gotten older we all realised that we don't really like going out. We force it on ourselves every three months.

Bonus: Which word would you use if you could only use one for the rest of your life?

My friends would say "Intriguing" and I do currently use that a lot, it's also why some call me Vulcan. But I think I would actually use the word "Really" as I personally can get more range out of it.

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TMI Tuesday: November 22, 2022

Hello again. Do your TMI Tuesday thang now.

1. Compared to 5 years ago do you care more or less about what people think of you?

Much less. Just before then I lost someone that mattered more than I realised, due to my own mistakes, but included words and actions of people currently in my life. Since then, those people have claimed to know me, but it has become evident that nobody does fully. With the exception of two members of family, I don't value the opinion of me of anyone who claims to know me but doesn't.

2. What is the last self-help book, article or blog post you read? Did it help you?

I don't really recall reading any. However, my family on my mother's side is religious, and so have been through the bible if that counts. I did actually find that helpful.

3. Tell us 3 people you must have in your life.

To find 3, I had to scrape the barrel. I'm not counting family because duh.

So, Jez: my sister from another mister (and by extension I will include her older sister, Stink). Sephie: my neice / surrogate daughter. & Jo, who I will likely never see again, so 2.5 out of 3 it is.

4. Does tech interfere with your personal relationships? How so?

It did at one point many years ago, but not since then. As much as I love tech, I use them to connect with people where applicable. I prioritise present people / by proximity.

5. When you want your partner or friend’s undivided attention, how do you communicate that?

I ask. As I don't really say much, telling people I have something to say or ask usually gets their attention. I can never guarantee it's undivided though.

Bonus: What is your view of love?

"Loving one who loves you (and then taking that vow)... Nice work if you can get it, and if you get it, won't you tell me how?"

 We all need it. It comes fifth after oxygen, sustenance (food and water), and sleep, and warmth / shelter. Just make sure it's in as true a form as you can get it, and not poisoned.

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TMI Tuesday: November 15, 2022

TMI Tuesday is posted.

1. Defend your splurge –
Tell us why you bought that thing — we won’t judge.

My spends are uninteresting / unexciting to anyone outside myself. My most frivolous spend of an outside POV is my Xbox Elite Controller Series 2. I Pre-ordered it, and it's still a spend I'm proud of and it's a perfect fit for me.

Before that was an Nvidia Shield Tablet... You may see a trend / pattern.

But my latest was a driving instructor course I have yet to progress through.

2. What is one thing you always take from a hotel room?

Soaps... Always with the bathroom products. I like things that serve a practical purpose, even my aesthetics.

3. What is one thing in your pantry you know you keep for too long?

I keep nothing too long. Being a big guy, I'm known for my eating habits. But I spend very little in food itself. Various people I know but and cook more than they should, and I judge them for wasting. So it ends up my way. I also chose to eat what is in my house by it's use by date.

4. Which game show sums up your life?
a. Jeopardy
b. Family Feud
c. The Price is Right
d. The Dating Game

B. Family Fortune here in the UK. I play the odds, aim for the top answer, often compare my choices to what the survey says, and I always have second answer ready and waiting.

5. When all is said and done, will you have said more than you have done?

Nope. Believe it or not, I am known to be a man of few words, much like Zoe Wash with the "Less talking. She's terse - I can be terse. Once, in flight school, I was laconic".

I have always been more of an "actions speak louder" kinda person. People who have judged me by what thaley thought I've said have often been corrected by those who have witnessed what I've done.

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TMI Tuesday: November 8, 2022

TMI Tuesday is posted. You know what to do.

Coupling

1. You unexpectedly had sex with your friend’s partner. You feel guilty. Your friend’s partner keeps texting you begging you not to say anything about the two of you having sex. Would you tell your friend or keep mum?

I would say nothing. But the rules are if "it didn't happen" then it can never be brought up again, and we continue as we were before like it never happened. But if things become weird between us, then I would have to tell him why. I would try to make it as painless as possible and accept the consequences.

2. How often would you like to spend time away from your significant other?
a. once a week
b. once a month
c. never, we like to be together all the time

A. I see your "absence makes the heart grow fonder", and raise you "familiarity breeds contempt".

Being able to spend all your time with someone you love is great, but 1) people do need time alone, and 2) there are pros to being reunited with your SO after a short break.

3. Do you think couples should argue regularly for a happy relationship or marriage?

Short answer... No. I don't argue. Apparently neither did my dad, and it's something my mother disliked. Jean is quite argumentative, like her mother and sisters, and doesn't understand how I can't be. But it has been pointed out that my calm demeanor is infectious. It's improved her mental health, and she has become a more pleasant individual apparently. The key part is communication. Some can only do that by arguing, usually because both parties are highly passionate individuals. As long as neither are a danger to the other, it usually translates well to other parts of the relationship.

But as my life has always been filled with moaners, complainers, and  generally disagreeable people, I refuse to contribute to that what I can help it. It's served me well so far. In fact in the few times I have argued it hasn't ended well for anyone. It's how I earned the nick name "The Credible Hulk" from a young age.

Strangely, Jeans sister Smeg wanted to fight me physically. She claimed it was the best way to get to know me.

4. What causes you to feel insecure in a relationship?

Not being in her top five for anything. I have a history of being second best at best, and it's still the case now. I am trying to make my peace with it, but I struggle with the concept that I'm not a first consideration in at least one or two aspects for someone I have continually put first.

Bonus: If you were asked, “Why do you keep meeting the wrong people on dating apps?” what would you respond?

I would suggest that I don't. I am unlikely to use a dating app to find Ms Right, it would likely be a mutual availablity that drew us together... Ms Right Now. I would be pleasantly surprised if my perfect "forever woman" was found on a dating app.

That said, I had a LDR with someone I met on twitter. We never got to meet in person, which would be part of why we didn't work out, but she was pretty perfect. If it can happen there, I guess a dating app could stand a chance.

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